I blamed my husband for all of the suffering in my world. I did nothing to deserve the pain of betrayal. I didn't sign up for it. I was blindsided by his struggle with pornography.
I had a good life, a secure childhood, a great college experience. I made it into my twenties before experiencing trauma or loss. And then this. I held my husband personally accountable for the deepest wound on my soul. It was a heavy burden for him to bear, and he suffered under the weight of my judgement.
But as we walked through years of recovery, an amazing transformation happened. The person who hurt me became the person who helped me heal.
He couldn't heal me. He couldn't fix me. He couldn't do my work. But he did his work and he did several other things that made my heart feel safe again.
Lynn Marie Cherry is the author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal.
She is dedicated to inspiring hope and shining a light on the path to freedom. In whatever shoes you prefer—flip-flops, heels or rubber rain boots—you’ll learn how to take a step forward today. Lynn and her husband David have been married for 25 years. They have two boys. You’ll find her at lynnmariecherry.com.
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